Miss Kate Kingsley, 26, Toronto, MFC
Jonathan: Hi, this is Jonathan with O Camgirl. Today I’ll be interviewing Miss Kate Kingsley, a webcam model. Hi Kate.
Kate Kingsley: Hi.
Jonathan: How long have you been working in the adult industry and what drew you into it?
Kate Kingsley: I have been in the adult industry approximately eight years. I originally started as an escort. I had a very bad drug habit; needed a way to support myself. I wasn’t going to be a thief so I did that. I got clean and the whole time that I escorted, I never had a bad date, never had anything go wrong. Got myself clean and my very first date clean – it was not a good date. Non-consensual stuff went on and I thought, “This is scary.” A friend of mine did the webcam thing and she said, “Why don’t you try this?” Much safer way to make money.
Jonathan: Is the adult entertainment industry your main source of income? If not, what is?
Kate Kingsley: Adult entertainment industry is my main source of income. I call it my whore funds.
Jonathan: Every job has its pros and cons. What do you love and what do you hate about webcam modelling?
Kate Kingsley: The number one thing I absolutely love is the ego boost, the confidence. You will never get sick of a man telling you how sexy you are, how beautiful you are, that he got off on just looking at you. 40-50 guys a day telling you this, it’s good for the ego. It’s fun. It’s fun to put on a show, it’s fun to role play, it’s fun to do that kind of stuff. The cons would be sometimes, in a way, you feel like you’re whoring yourself because a lot of times guys are there for a free show. They’re cheap and they’re trying to see what they can get out of you without paying, so they’re hoping other guys in the room are going to tip you so that you show something. I know on the site that I’m on, not very many people take you private. A lot will take you into a Skype show, but not take you private. That being said, I have made quite a few, three or four really good friends. You get the regulars and you build relationships, and that’s a good thing too.
Jonathan: How does the work you do factor into your every day life and relationships with family and friends?
Kate Kingsley: As far as I know, my family doesn’t know I’m in the industry anymore, at all. I tell my friends and family I’m a freelancer. The only friend that would know that I still do it is the original friend who got me into it. Most of my friends now are pretty vanilla, have vanilla lives. They’re professionals, they have families. Anyone who would have known that I was in the industry are long gone, cut out of my life when I got sober. My daily life, I like that I can work when I want to work. If I don’t want to work, I don’t have to work. In that sense, I have a lot of freedom to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. That’s good for good work-life balance.
*Disclaimer* In this interview I mention that no one close to me knows about what I do. Since recording this video and writing this piece, I have gone ahead and told quite a few people: my close friends, my doctor, even my piercer! And, my mother.
Jonathan: What is femdom fetish and how does it appeal to you and to your fans?
Kate Kingsley: In the simplest terms, femdom is female domination and it’s generally in the BDSM scene. There’s a lot of offshoots from femdom. There’s findom, which is financial domination, but also verbal humiliation, physical humiliation, CBT, which is cock and ball torture, pegging, which is using a strap on. There’s a lot to it. It appeals to my fans big time. 99% of my clients, viewers, watchers or whatever are subs, sissies, slaves, cucks, pindicks. Most of them get off on the verbal humiliation. You’d be surprised. A lot of them are men that have very important jobs, they’re in power, they have to make all the decisions, they are high up in their company. They need a release. They need to be dominated. I’m finding especially as time goes by, a lot more men are looking for a femdom relationship of some sort.
Jonathan: You also do phone sex. What attracted you to that and how does is complement your work as a cam girl?
Kate Kingsley: What attracted me to it was not having to get up and get dressed and look pretty. For me it was a passive income opportunity. I didn’t think that I would be as successful at it as I am. I probably make about $800 per month from phone sex alone. Sometimes I will do both. I will be on cam and I’ll take phone calls and guys in the room love it. They love hearing it especially because a lot of my phone calls are femdom phone calls. The guys in the room love it. They love hearing it, because it’s a story. I’m telling a story. I don’t always do it but I find that guys really like it because they get the story element out of it.
Jonathan: What’s the most important piece of advice that you would give to someone considering becoming a webcam model?
Kate Kingsley: Number one, just go for it. If you’re thinking about it, go for it. It may not be right for you, but you don’t know. It can be an amazing opportunity. You can definitely make a living off of it. You’re not going to make six figures right out of the gate. In the beginning, you’re going to be maybe awkward and maybe it might not be for you and you can move on, but in the beginning, you might be awkward or whatever, but if you overcome that, you persevere, give a guy what he wants in the realm of your boundaries, you’re friendly, you’re going to make money, you’re going to build up a clientele. Set yourself a schedule, stick to it, do your promo, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, whatever. Promo the hell out of yourself and just build rapport with people. If you enjoy it, stick with it, and just go for it and be yourself. Just be yourself. Don’t try and be anything you’re not. Don’t try and be sweet daddy’s girl or the female dominant. Just be who you are and let your personality shine through.
Jonathan: Fucking A.
Kate Kingsley: Fucking A indeed.
Jonathan: Do you have any closing thoughts or anything you’re working on that you’d like to plug?
Kate Kingsley: Closing thoughts. Bottom line, go do you girl. Do what you’ve got to do, make that whore money. I also am a part of a femdom or a fetish collective group of pro-dommes. We’re just starting up. We are the Fetish Fem Fatales, so if you go onto YouTube, you can search the Fetish Fem Fatales. Also on YouTube, we are at Fetish F-E-M F-A-T-A-L-E, Fetish Fem Fatale, but F-E-M, not the whole femme. But mostly follow me on Twitter.