When you work as a webcam model, you’re creating a fantasy for your customers. The performer name that you choose at registration becomes the name they fantasize about until they come back with credits or tokens. They pay you, and then you perform a show for them.
I used several words in the first paragraph that you should avoid while broadcasting. I bet you know what they are, but in case you hadn’t thought of it before I’ve created a handy dandy list of 10 such words and phrases for you to use as a guide.
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The word “work” has a negative connotation that might imply that you don’t actually want to be there. Your customers want to believe that you’re there because you want to be.
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The words “customers” and “clients” have a connotation that implies exchange of money for goods and services. While accurate, that’s not what you want them thinking about while they’re in your room.
When in doubt, remember that whether horny, lonely or bored, they are just people and they’re there because they like you.
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In creating a fantasy, your job is to make it seem as real as possible. Some may want to develop a lasting friendship with the persona that you’ve created. Don’t remind them that you aren’t using your real name.
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This is a big one. To become a successful camgirl you need to get your guests to stop thinking with their wallets. You need to get them excited and eager to take that credit card out to spoil you and get your attention.
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A lot of models use the phrase “take me private,” but it doesn’t usually work because as in #4 this draws their attention back to their wallet. Your best bet is to water it down and keep it playfully seductive. This is what they call “soft selling.” 😉
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The words “perform” and “show” are both impersonal. If he’s paid for your one-on-one attention, he generally wants an intimate experience with you.
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It’s your job to maintain the fantasy they came for. If you are straight up not available, it makes you less interesting by default. Some may love the idea of having fun with someone’s wife, but most customers want to at least enjoy the illusion of you being available.
On the other hand, if you’re straight up single, they won’t believe you because… how could someone so gorgeous and intelligent be single amiright?
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When your guests ask why you started camming, they probably don’t want to hear that you were having trouble paying your bills or that you need the money for school. These kinds of things bring them back to their wallet-awareness. Some might want to help, but most really just want you to seduce them into spending their time and money on you.
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Yes it’s a fantasy and yes you are going to experience some kind of feeling for some of your customers over time. It happens. In the heat of the moment, sometimes it’s easy to let an “I love you” slip if you forget where you are.
Some customers may explicitly request that you say “I love you” at some point during a show, and in this case it’s up to you – if you’re comfortable, go ahead and oblige. But please be careful with people’s emotions. If they seem to be taking the fantasy a little too seriously, consider creating some distance.
I’ve received more marriage proposals at work than I ever imagined I would in my entire life lol.
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If someone asks you if you would try something that you aren’t comfortable with, saying “no” isn’t always the best answer.
I’m not suggesting that you do anything you’re not comfortable with. In fact, I insist that you don’t.
But even if you aren’t going to fulfill the request, you can still entertain his fantasy. Unless you aren’t comfortable with the customer at all, try not to close doors by simply saying no.
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These are not set in stone. Obviously there are many different types of customers who are looking for something different. For example, a known submissive might love to hear you tell him to empty his wallet for you. But we’ll talk about those customers in a future edition of Camgirl Success Tips.
What are some things that you say on cam that seem to work for you? I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences with words and phrases like these. Drop me a comment or question below.
Now that you are better equipped for your live broadcast conversations, go make some money. And by that I mean go hang out with your guys on cam! 😉
Take it easy.
I slightly disagree with number four. While I do try to avoid saying “tokens” or “money” as much as i can, I feel its necessary in some situations. For example, if someone is asking you to do something (spin, change outfit, wave, etc.), there’s no harm in telling them the price. But thats just me (:
I actually agree with you on this, Emmily. The point I was trying to make here was targeted more toward those who might bring up the subject of a transaction so often that her users never have the opportunity to ‘suspend disbelief’ and enjoy the fantasy of her as someone just having fun with them. It doesn’t change the reality, just the framing.
Hi cat i love all your articles here its very helpful for us specially for someone like me who is just starting in this field. I need your advice with regular client. He was a regular customer of mine for almost everyday he takes me to private, but the problem is before he takes me to private he do make me show and make me show in the public room which is everyone see me perform.. I feel not comfortable in what i do but afraid also that he will walk away once i dont do his request. and worst find a girl in replace of me. Tell me how can i handle this kind of client. thank you.
Customers can’t make you do anything you don’t want to do. If he’s making you uncomfortable and afraid of losing his business, it’s you who should walk away. Saying no is something we have to do regularly in this industry- stick to your guns and don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable or this work will wear you down in no time at all. There are way better clients out there! Keep it up!
As a femdom, when the word “love” pops up I tie into my routine. IE “I love the way you adore/ worship me” or “Of course you do, I’m your goddess/ mistress”. I dunno if these lines work in a vanilla setting though. Submissives want to feel like they are unworthy and getting something they haven’t earned.
As a straight model who carers to gay clients, #10 is beautiful. Thank you so much.
Thank you for reading! 😀
Most of this is great advice. The best advice I can give an aspiring cam model is to be yourself, and be honest and straightforward. I am a camgirl and I say ‘No’ often. I don’t do/try things I do not want to. I also am honest about my relationship status. I am very direct and straightforward about money and performing shows. Everyone in my room enjoys these things about me and I do every well. But, most importantly, you should never tell anyone (especially a woman in a vulnerable position) to not say NO when they might want to.
I totally agree! You can be honest and straightforward about what you will and will not do in a show while still entertaining the client’s fantasy. That’s really the point of this post. I always insist that cam girls never do anything they aren’t comfortable with. Sometimes finding an alternative to the word “No” could also be a means to an alternative request or discovering something else the client is interested in, instead of simply shutting the request out. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sandra Mae!
Another great post Cat, very practical tips here.
I’m the kind of person who would still manage to stuff it up even WITH all the great advice, so I was really loving the ‘what not to say’ and ‘what to say instead’ examples. They’re worded so perfectly – time to hit the old ctrl-C, ctrl-V!
Thank you Jolie! It’s great to hear the examples were helpful. All the best.